When the new relationship glow wears off, you might be surprised to find yourself in a relationship with a person with flaws, a person who has a slightly (or sometimes completely) different view of the world from you. It can be tough to accept that your partner isn’t the perfect creature you saw when you met. But you must resist the urge to try to change all of your partner to match your expectations. Read more Focus on Changing Yourself Rather than Changing your Partner
Do you remember what it felt like when you first fell in love with your partner? You couldn’t sleep, you couldn’t eat and all you could do was think about them? Chances are you don’t feel that way anymore. Sure your love has grown deeper and more secure, but there isn’t that excitement like you felt in the beginning.
Well, I have good news for you! That rush in the beginning stages is caused by hormones and neurotransmitters firing in your brain. They are responding to the excitement of something new, different and novel. So, to put spark those feelings again. we can fake it by doing exciting, new, and novel things with our partners. Here are just a few ideas to help you put that spark back into your relationship:
Boy meets girl. Boy dates girl. Boy and girl wed. They live happily ever after. This is the fantasy girls and boys alike grow up believing in. But this story is an inaccurate representation of the work that actually goes into making a successful relationship.
Read more Accept the Fact That Happily Ever After Is a Myth
There is no Goldilocks rule for fighting, the “just right” amount of fighting for a healthy relationship in between too much and not enough. Every couple is different. Some couples enjoy fighting and making up. Other couples prefer to avoid fighting at all costs. Some couples fight more frequently or more intensely than others. But all couples eventually disagree about something. Most of the time, these differences can be explored calmly. But sometimes the differences will feel bigger, and you will find yourself on the precipice of battle.
Why do we struggle to be wrong or to admit fault? I have my own theory, but I will save that for another article. Regardless to why we have difficulty taking responsibility or being seen as fallible, I can tell you as a couples counselor that that behavior is one of the most destructive things that couples do.
In this blog series, we’re going to focus in-depth on ten steps you can take together to help create a stronger relationship. Each of these tips is designed to tackle an issue that can lead to fights, resentment, and poor communication. By understanding how a behavior or habit can affect your relationship negatively or positively, you arm yourself with the knowledge needed to make better choices for your relationship.