There is no Goldilocks rule for fighting, the “just right” amount of fighting for a healthy relationship in between too much and not enough. Every couple is different. Some couples enjoy fighting and making up. Other couples prefer to avoid fighting at all costs. Some couples fight more frequently or more intensely than others. But all couples eventually disagree about something. Most of the time, these differences can be explored calmly. But sometimes the differences will feel bigger, and you will find yourself on the precipice of battle.
Why do we struggle to be wrong or to admit fault? I have my own theory, but I will save that for another article. Regardless to why we have difficulty taking responsibility or being seen as fallible, I can tell you as a couples counselor that that behavior is one of the most destructive things that couples do.
In this blog series, we’re going to focus in-depth on ten steps you can take together to help create a stronger relationship. Each of these tips is designed to tackle an issue that can lead to fights, resentment, and poor communication. By understanding how a behavior or habit can affect your relationship negatively or positively, you arm yourself with the knowledge needed to make better choices for your relationship.