Sex is an undeniably important aspect of any romantic relationship. Alongside emotional intimacy, it is one of the hallmark differences between a friendship and a romantic partnership. Thus, it is understandably distressing if your once passion-laden romps in the bedroom begin to feel stale, stagnant, or cease altogether.

While there can sometimes be medical factors contributing to libidinal changes (and it is always a good idea to rule this out), sexual disconnect often arises from emotional and intellectual “blocks,” both within and outside of the relationship. Some common contributing factors include: performance anxiety, body image concerns, lack of emotional/intellectual intimacy, traumatic experiences, feelings of doubt or insecurity, boredom, or resentment.

Although it may be an uncomfortable topic to address, communication surrounding intimacy is the key component in fostering a mutually satisfying sexual relationship. After all, neither of you are mind-readers! Couples counseling can serve as a safe space to begin this dialogue with your partner.

To begin the process of addressing your intimacy concerns, schedule a couples counseling appointment with one of our licensed counselors below:

Written by Joanna Aslanian, LPC, ATR-P