There is no Goldilocks rule for fighting, the “just right” amount of fighting for a healthy relationship in between too much and not enough. Every couple is different. Some couples enjoy fighting and making up. Other couples prefer to avoid fighting at all costs. Some couples fight more frequently or more intensely than others. But all couples eventually disagree about something. Most of the time, these differences can be explored calmly. But sometimes the differences will feel bigger, and you will find yourself on the precipice of battle.